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Food for Thought:Something none of us are comfortable talking about in a social setting.

"Something none of us are comfortable talking about in a social setting."
I knew you read this and thought that the something was sex. It isn't, ok? Clear your dirty thoughts. Not everything is about sex even though anything can be, just ask the people who have balloon fetishes.
A few years ago, while i was surfing on the internet and drinking a very nice, super chilled ice tea; I came across the term "Gender Spectrum". Yeah its gender, don't run away, open your minds and please continue reading. Please, don't be that guy.
Now of course, like any good digital age teenager, I clicked on the link. I  learnt that day that many people believe that gender is not male and female, Its rather a giant spectrum on which you can lie anywhere. Now a lot of people say this theory is false and gender is only what is in your pants.
I urge all  of u to now look into your pants and see what your gender is according to these people.
This is one side of how gender is seen today.
The other side that says gender is a spectrum says,
"How about we don't look into our pants and rather lets look into your own mind and see your gender"
Now, I know it makes these people sound like hippies who practice meditation and yoga like drug addicts snort cocaine, but bear with me.
So in today's world these people who believe the spectrum theory, identify as various genders, some  are non-binary and genderfluid, along with the common male and female(I will write their meanings as said by google at the end of the blog entry).
But what really fascinated me, was the theory that gender was fluid; as in a person's gender can vary a little over life.
I will explain further, imagine a line. On the left end is male and on the right end is female. Lets say a person is located on one side of the spectrum. While they will always stay in the region of the line, where their gender is applicable, they still might move inside that region.
To elaborate for the people with very toxic masculinity, wearing pink is fine, it doesn't make u a girl. Your hair, posture,clothes and that little 🙌....sorry, GIANT bump on your crotch,visible through your pants, makes it clear that you are a man.
Now I am going to say something very, very controversial.
In my opinion becoming a father makes a man more feminine.
Now now now!!!!!!! I know a lot of you are a bit confused, even a little enraged. Don't worry we will take this slow.
Imagine, that I am right now in front of you, talking to you directly(I would prefer if u imagined me as a young Robert Downey Jr., thank u very much).Keep looking at the robert me
I will now give a very long gap between this and the next paragraph, during the time u scroll through that gap, I want you to take deep breaths as that statement settles in.
Here we go











take it slow, don't worry, ur toxic masculinity, a gift from ur father, will eventually heal you.













U ok? I will give my explanation now, it will make you feel better, I promise. The most basic stereotype between a man and a woman is that a woman is more caring and sensitive, while a man is  tougher and more stern.
To be clear, a woman is the fuckboi who will ruin your life before the one night stand,sweet and caring, and a man is the fuckboi after it.
But no matter how tough a guy is, I can ensure you a man becomes more caring, sweet and sensitive after it. Take my dad for example, he was a chainsmoker, drank and had the health that he could have kept doing this for life, but as soon as my brother was born.He left it all so that it doesn't have any bad effect on his kid(he didn't do it when I was born because I was the disappointment) Even non vegetarian food and my dad is punjabi, it would have been easier for him to be celibate.  He sacrificed something very dear to him to preserve his kid, which is normally seen to be a rather motherly thing to do.  I believe that day he shifted a little right to the spectrum. This didn't make him less of a man, of course, but it definitely made him a better human.
(I teared up a bit, sorry)
This is the reason I believe gender is fluid.
Surprisingly, this isn't the only way gender fluidity is seen. Remember that gender identity I mentioned before? This identity is defined by google as,"Genderfluid is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A genderfluid person's identity will change constantly, so it's always best to ask what they are in that moment. For instance; You wake up a girl, then you suddenly feel like a boy." Their gender is in constant flux!!!!No, they don't have both set of genitals. But their brain literally switches between genders constantly!!! Don't tell me that isn't cool. But sadly in our society, if one is a 'boy', one can't just dress like  girl. A lot of genderfluid people do different things to constantly wear more 'neutral clothes'. They wear baggier clothes, like keeping long hair etc etc. People who know me will say,"This is you."No it isn't, I just make weird fashion choices.
Well I know a lot of you have short attention spans and this entry is getting quite lengthy, so let's stop. I hope your mind opened a bit.
Feel free to post any disagreement in the comments.

now for the millenialism part of the blog:
#genderisfake #genderisasocialconstruct #killstereotypes #letskillourselves #ineedatherapist #bye



Non Binary:Non-binary, or genderqueer, is a spectrum of gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine‍—‌identities that are outside the gender binary. 

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  1. thank u
    for some reason , i really like when people compliment me

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